Dear Robert,
My life has been touched by two tragic deaths. I lost my fiance,
D.C., in a diving accident only 48 hours after we got engaged.
My only child, Dustin, died of a drug overdose in his teens.
Why do things like this happen? Why did they happen to me??
Sincerely,
Valerie Villars
New Orleans, Louisiana
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Dear Valerie,
Please accept my condolences regarding the loss of your beloved
son and fiance.
Valerie, of the many challenges provided by life on Earth, death
of a loved one is perhaps the most universal. Unless we ourselves
die at a young age, it is likely we will lose someone we care
about. The fact that virtually all of us share this experience
suggests it offers profound opportunities for growth. Were it
not so, we as souls would be less likely to seek lives on the
physical plane.
Yet, death is much more prominent in some lives than in others.
The loss of not one but two people in your life suggests that
these deaths may well have been part of your pre-birth plan.
I asked medium Corbie Mitleid, who has the ability to channel
a person’s soul, to channel your soul so that we might
find out exactly what was planned and why.
The channeling began with a few moments of silence as Corbie
entered a trance. When I felt she was ready, I began with the
fundamental question.
“Why did Valerie experience the loss of a fiancé
and a child?” I asked.
“She has been through both before. Both have to do with
the world war,” announced Valerie’s soul. “She
lost her fiancé [D.C.] in 1916. There was a superstition
that when you went back to the front [in World War I], you were
not supposed to get engaged, because that was like putting a
bull’s eye on your back. She and her fiancé thought
they would be the exception. When the fiancé was killed,
she lost her mind. She tried to throw herself out windows, refused
to eat, and frankly became something of pity and scandal with
her family, which, while not noble in the southern part of England,
was certainly well connected. She succeeded in killing herself
in 1920.
“She was born very shortly after, as many suicides are.
She was born in the western area of the United States. She was
of foreign extraction. She was married at eighteen and had a
son shortly after. She was put into the internment camps in
the United States [during World War II] because she was not
sufficiently American. She lost track of her child, who had
been taken from her. There was the constant, desolate hope that
the child would be found alive. The child was killed before
age twenty in an automobile accident, crossing the road while
drunk.
“The fiancé, the son, and she have been playing
out love and loss for some time. It is to be hoped and prayed
that the personality [Valerie] understands now the transience
of loss and that it is possible to go on with one’s life
having loved, but then having put that aside until meeting [again]
out of the body.”
“Why is it important for a personality to understand the
transience of loss?” I asked.
“Consider misunderstood loss as a derailment,” replied
Valerie’s soul. “When you understand impermanence,
when you understand that change is truly the only constant in
a space-time continuum, then you understand that such losses
come and go. These souls have been with her time and again.
They are truly soulmates. She can extract from the experience
the blessings given by both and take them with her to improve
her life instead of derailing her positive direction with recriminations
toward herself or God or the faith.”
“Why did the life plan call for two deaths instead of
one?”
“Often, when this personality has experienced death, she
did not do well. We felt that given where and when the personality
would be first schooled [on Earth] and the information with
which she would surround herself, she would stand a better chance
of being able to handle these [deaths]. While this time on Earth
is fraught with difficulty and in many ways dark, the ability
to take in spirituality, which has normally been hidden, is
all-pervasive. It is easier, much easier, for the personality
to learn spiritual truths this time because they are more widely
spread.”
“Do you feel that Valerie is accomplishing what you would
like her to accomplish?”
“She is brave. Her ability to see transcends most personalities
we have incarnated in the past two hundred years. We believe
that these lessons can be dispensed with after this lifetime,
should she take those deaths, make them meaningful, allow for
their transience, and complete her life with their input as
part of what makes her whole, not what makes her broken.”
“Valerie’s story will be read by people who have
lost a loved one,” I said. “We’ve talked about
understanding the transient nature of loss. What else would
you say to help someone who is grieving?”
“Learn to pierce the veil. None are ever truly lost. If
you knew that by stretching your faculties you could reach the
souls of those who loved you, would you feel the loss as much?
They are no longer with you to go on picnics or do the dishes
or attend your child’s graduation in form [body], but
they can still see. Affection for souls does not die. How many
people see their parents or grandparents dead for what they
consider many, many years, and yet the love is still strong
and vibrant? When one is lost, be assured all that needed to
be gained has been gained from that personality. If one is lost,
if a personality discorporates, take those treasures and move
forward with them in your own life. Whether one dies at forty
or eighty, the life has been lived as it was meant to be lived.”
* * *
Valerie, the death of the physical body is ultimately a decision
made by the soul after the life plan has been fulfilled. This
awareness brings with it the understanding that we are not to
blame for a loved one’s death. Fatal accidents or circumstances
for which we may feel responsible are simply some of the exit
points planned by our loved ones before birth. For readers who
feel they caused or should have prevented another’s death,
know this: no one dies without consent. Therein rests your self-forgiveness.
Therein lies your peace.
Faith and trust in the wisdom of our pre-birth plans allow us
to know that those we love extracted from their lives all the
growth, beauty, and richness they originally sought. They are
at peace in the knowledge that they lived their lives just as
they had planned, and they would share that knowing, and the
peace it brings, with us.
Sincerely,
Robert Schwartz
Robert Schwartz is the author of Courageous Souls:
Do We Plan Our Life Challenges Before Birth? A free
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